Sex and Bonding Issues in Brunnen Culture
Bonding is the physiological joining that occurs between two Brunnens who wish to share a life together and bear children.
Question posed: What exactly is "bonding" and how could it be considered dangerous?
First and foremost, it is important to make a distinction between bonding practices on the original Brunnis, and bonding practices on Brunnis 2.
On the original Brunnis, there was no such thing as immortality. Our people were just as vulnerable to disease and death as other mortals.
On Brunnis 2, we no longer had these fears, as we were immortal now, and no longer had to worry about bonding complications.
I shall take up the topic of sex and bonding on the original Brunnis first.
When two unbonded Brunnens of similar interests and compatible personalities first meet, they will generally sense they have a "receptivity" to each other. This would take the form of emotional ties...feelings of a deep kinship and common frames of reference. This initial friendship alone would not be enough to drive them to desire to bond, however. There would also have to be a willingness on the part of both to share their lives and secrets with each other.
Generally, young Brunnens were not willing to do this until of a significant age. On the original Brunnis, most couples did not bond until they were at least 35-60 years of age (typical lifespans of Brunnens were on the order of 250 years). Bonding could occur as early as mid twenties, however, but it was generally frowned on before 30. Up to that point, most Brunnens were still trying to discover themselves and weren't mature enough to handle an entire lifetime with a soulmate.
You must understand, there really was no such thing as casual sex on Brunnis between unbonded partners. Sex (or at least act) always resulted in full bonding - that when combined with something known as "Synesthesis"(sin-es-thee-sis). It involved both partners touching each other's temples during the act of lovemaking. This solidified the psychic link between partners, and facilitated merging so that memories would flow freely between the two.
Of course, there were ways to get around the solidified bonding, as in avoidance of the final phase (the act itself), but generally this was only done by those highly practised in deep meditation techniques to discipline one self to not give in to the biochemical signals deep within one's brain compelling them to mate and solidify the bond. Even something as innocuous as a kiss, depending on the level of passion involved could bring about strong sexual feelings if the proclivity was already there.
Once these urges were initiated, the biochemical changes in the brain would begin to affect the emotional state of the bonding partners. Since Brunnens were highly empathic, they would begin to link up psychically, sharing images of memories and strong emotions. These emotions would inevitably grow stronger as the passion grew, until like a drug, it would eventually become overpowering.
Feuled with the intense desire to bond, the two would likely feel feverish and generally unwell until they finally gave in to their desires. Metabolically, their bodies, by this point, would already be feeding off of each other, and giving them a measure of discomfort. To be apart for long would be utter hell. The act of bonding, a blissful and welcome release. In that single act, they would become one psychically and physiologically.
They would begin to share memories, feelings, and even pick up a measure of the other's skills. Metabolically, they would experience radical changes in their bodies' chemistries. Males would then share a measure of their immune system with females. Females would share a measure of their empathic abilities and stamina. Thus, once bonded, males benefitted by gaining increased stamina and empathic receptivity, while females benefitted by gaining enhanced immune systems.
The reason for this was twofold. First, when a couple procreated, the enhanced immune system of the female helped her to ward off disease and illness for both her and the unborn child. For the male, enhanced stamina meant he could be a better protector and endure hardship more efficiently. Secondly, a weakened stamina in the female was hardly a hindrance, since the males actually tended to suffer more during the female's pregnancy than she would. As his immune system was weaker, he was the one to empathically experience "morning sickness" whereas females tended to feel great during pregnancy....a source of amusement to women everywhere, I am sure.
However, with these benefits also came drawbacks. For one thing, there really was such a thing as being incompatible. If a couple chose to mate without paying close attention to their own receptivity...which was known to happen particularly amongst the young and inexperienced who weren't attuned to their own psyches...let alone that of another, they would find themselves longing to bond with a mate that physicologically and psychically resisted merging. When this happened, both would become gravely ill as their metabolisms, closely linked to their psyches, resisted completing the bond. If their metabolism was sufficiently affected, death would generally follow. For this reason, offworlders were strictly, although not exclusively avoided.
Most offworlders did not possess enough empathic ability to bond with a Brunnen, and the Brunnen would end up dying in the process. Many Brunnens have died this way in battle too. It was not unheard of for captured Brunnen prisoners to be subjected to forced sex with an offworlder as a form of mental and physical torture. Death was generally inevitable in this case. As for male warriors, all warriors in active service were forbidden to bond. This was because, once bonded, couples could not be apart for too long without their metabolisms becoming unstable.
Also, if a partner were to die or be killed, the other would soon follow. Even children under the age of 2 were still physiologically linked to both parents, and if either died, the child would die too. Thus...you can imagine what would happen to a family if a bonded Tuath soldier were killed in battle. His lifemate would soon die, and so would their newborn child. This is why Tuaths were compelled to remain celibate, and partly why women did not become Tuath warriors. For one, as a matriarchical society, the women of Brunnis were highly respected, and they took their roles as nurturing parents, caregivers, physicians, and senseis very seriously. Brunnen children were not simply raised by the parents...but by the entire community as a whole. Women were seen as the lifeblood of Brunnis, whereas males were considered more or less expendible.
Just a quick note as well, for those wondering about same sex bonding. Just as in traditional bonding, the same metabolic joining occurs. However, if two males join, they both gain enhanced immunity. If two females join, they both gain enhanced stamina. However, they are just as capable of bearing and caring for offspring as traditional couples.
As for bonding on Brunnis 2, the same metabolic desires and shared dreams/memories and the like still occurred, although the heath issues were no longer a concern. However, sex also became less interesting to immortals, and most stopped practising it altogether once they reached an advanced age. Only younger Brunnens and Newborns still cared to bond and have children.
And of course, on Brunnis, just as anywhere else, prophylactics and contraceptive therapies existed and flourished. After all, even couples with children occasionally wanted to have sex without the complications of offspring. However, on the original Brunnis, couples were encouraged to bear at least one offspring that would carry on at least one parent's name. Couples inclined to bond, yet not inclined to have children were often looked down upon in a society that placed great value on raising the future of Brunnis.
Keep in mind, with all our genetic expertise, we had managed to do away with infertility long ago. Anyone was capable of having children if they wanted to do so...and surrogates were readily willing to serve as receptacles for those too weak to carry their own children to term... or incapable of doing so on their own, such as in the case of two bonded males. It was traditional, however, to not use protection during the act of bonding itself, as this was considered a sacred act. If a child was produced from this first union, it was believed the bonding had been blessed by the Prophet herself and the couple would be destined to have good fortune bestowed upon them.
On Brunnis 2, chemical sterilization took the place of most forms of protection. Only the newborns and younger Brunnens chose to occasionally bear offspring. The rest either chose abstinence or had themselves chemically sterilized. The traditional act of bonding without using protection was left up to the couple in question by this point.
As a tangible example of the power of Synesthesis, you can see I once requested the same of Zev when I attempted to acquire the many memories of His Divine Shadow in my search for the ultimate source of my protoblood, as demonstrated in the image below. As I was already bonded with Xiara, and no longer living, there was no longer any threat of my desiring to bond with Zev during this exchange. However, had I been alive, this act would have likely felt intrusive.
Bonding is the physiological joining that occurs between two Brunnens who wish to share a life together and bear children.
Question posed: What exactly is "bonding" and how could it be considered dangerous?
First and foremost, it is important to make a distinction between bonding practices on the original Brunnis, and bonding practices on Brunnis 2.
On the original Brunnis, there was no such thing as immortality. Our people were just as vulnerable to disease and death as other mortals.
On Brunnis 2, we no longer had these fears, as we were immortal now, and no longer had to worry about bonding complications.
I shall take up the topic of sex and bonding on the original Brunnis first.
When two unbonded Brunnens of similar interests and compatible personalities first meet, they will generally sense they have a "receptivity" to each other. This would take the form of emotional ties...feelings of a deep kinship and common frames of reference. This initial friendship alone would not be enough to drive them to desire to bond, however. There would also have to be a willingness on the part of both to share their lives and secrets with each other.
Generally, young Brunnens were not willing to do this until of a significant age. On the original Brunnis, most couples did not bond until they were at least 35-60 years of age (typical lifespans of Brunnens were on the order of 250 years). Bonding could occur as early as mid twenties, however, but it was generally frowned on before 30. Up to that point, most Brunnens were still trying to discover themselves and weren't mature enough to handle an entire lifetime with a soulmate.
You must understand, there really was no such thing as casual sex on Brunnis between unbonded partners. Sex (or at least act) always resulted in full bonding - that when combined with something known as "Synesthesis"(sin-es-thee-sis). It involved both partners touching each other's temples during the act of lovemaking. This solidified the psychic link between partners, and facilitated merging so that memories would flow freely between the two.
Of course, there were ways to get around the solidified bonding, as in avoidance of the final phase (the act itself), but generally this was only done by those highly practised in deep meditation techniques to discipline one self to not give in to the biochemical signals deep within one's brain compelling them to mate and solidify the bond. Even something as innocuous as a kiss, depending on the level of passion involved could bring about strong sexual feelings if the proclivity was already there.
Once these urges were initiated, the biochemical changes in the brain would begin to affect the emotional state of the bonding partners. Since Brunnens were highly empathic, they would begin to link up psychically, sharing images of memories and strong emotions. These emotions would inevitably grow stronger as the passion grew, until like a drug, it would eventually become overpowering.
Feuled with the intense desire to bond, the two would likely feel feverish and generally unwell until they finally gave in to their desires. Metabolically, their bodies, by this point, would already be feeding off of each other, and giving them a measure of discomfort. To be apart for long would be utter hell. The act of bonding, a blissful and welcome release. In that single act, they would become one psychically and physiologically.
They would begin to share memories, feelings, and even pick up a measure of the other's skills. Metabolically, they would experience radical changes in their bodies' chemistries. Males would then share a measure of their immune system with females. Females would share a measure of their empathic abilities and stamina. Thus, once bonded, males benefitted by gaining increased stamina and empathic receptivity, while females benefitted by gaining enhanced immune systems.
The reason for this was twofold. First, when a couple procreated, the enhanced immune system of the female helped her to ward off disease and illness for both her and the unborn child. For the male, enhanced stamina meant he could be a better protector and endure hardship more efficiently. Secondly, a weakened stamina in the female was hardly a hindrance, since the males actually tended to suffer more during the female's pregnancy than she would. As his immune system was weaker, he was the one to empathically experience "morning sickness" whereas females tended to feel great during pregnancy....a source of amusement to women everywhere, I am sure.
However, with these benefits also came drawbacks. For one thing, there really was such a thing as being incompatible. If a couple chose to mate without paying close attention to their own receptivity...which was known to happen particularly amongst the young and inexperienced who weren't attuned to their own psyches...let alone that of another, they would find themselves longing to bond with a mate that physicologically and psychically resisted merging. When this happened, both would become gravely ill as their metabolisms, closely linked to their psyches, resisted completing the bond. If their metabolism was sufficiently affected, death would generally follow. For this reason, offworlders were strictly, although not exclusively avoided.
Most offworlders did not possess enough empathic ability to bond with a Brunnen, and the Brunnen would end up dying in the process. Many Brunnens have died this way in battle too. It was not unheard of for captured Brunnen prisoners to be subjected to forced sex with an offworlder as a form of mental and physical torture. Death was generally inevitable in this case. As for male warriors, all warriors in active service were forbidden to bond. This was because, once bonded, couples could not be apart for too long without their metabolisms becoming unstable.
Also, if a partner were to die or be killed, the other would soon follow. Even children under the age of 2 were still physiologically linked to both parents, and if either died, the child would die too. Thus...you can imagine what would happen to a family if a bonded Tuath soldier were killed in battle. His lifemate would soon die, and so would their newborn child. This is why Tuaths were compelled to remain celibate, and partly why women did not become Tuath warriors. For one, as a matriarchical society, the women of Brunnis were highly respected, and they took their roles as nurturing parents, caregivers, physicians, and senseis very seriously. Brunnen children were not simply raised by the parents...but by the entire community as a whole. Women were seen as the lifeblood of Brunnis, whereas males were considered more or less expendible.
Just a quick note as well, for those wondering about same sex bonding. Just as in traditional bonding, the same metabolic joining occurs. However, if two males join, they both gain enhanced immunity. If two females join, they both gain enhanced stamina. However, they are just as capable of bearing and caring for offspring as traditional couples.
As for bonding on Brunnis 2, the same metabolic desires and shared dreams/memories and the like still occurred, although the heath issues were no longer a concern. However, sex also became less interesting to immortals, and most stopped practising it altogether once they reached an advanced age. Only younger Brunnens and Newborns still cared to bond and have children.
And of course, on Brunnis, just as anywhere else, prophylactics and contraceptive therapies existed and flourished. After all, even couples with children occasionally wanted to have sex without the complications of offspring. However, on the original Brunnis, couples were encouraged to bear at least one offspring that would carry on at least one parent's name. Couples inclined to bond, yet not inclined to have children were often looked down upon in a society that placed great value on raising the future of Brunnis.
Keep in mind, with all our genetic expertise, we had managed to do away with infertility long ago. Anyone was capable of having children if they wanted to do so...and surrogates were readily willing to serve as receptacles for those too weak to carry their own children to term... or incapable of doing so on their own, such as in the case of two bonded males. It was traditional, however, to not use protection during the act of bonding itself, as this was considered a sacred act. If a child was produced from this first union, it was believed the bonding had been blessed by the Prophet herself and the couple would be destined to have good fortune bestowed upon them.
On Brunnis 2, chemical sterilization took the place of most forms of protection. Only the newborns and younger Brunnens chose to occasionally bear offspring. The rest either chose abstinence or had themselves chemically sterilized. The traditional act of bonding without using protection was left up to the couple in question by this point.
As a tangible example of the power of Synesthesis, you can see I once requested the same of Zev when I attempted to acquire the many memories of His Divine Shadow in my search for the ultimate source of my protoblood, as demonstrated in the image below. As I was already bonded with Xiara, and no longer living, there was no longer any threat of my desiring to bond with Zev during this exchange. However, had I been alive, this act would have likely felt intrusive.
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